The Mentor, the coach, and the counselor. A mentor is a combination of all three. The mentor is a teacher, a motivator and a guide or confidant. The poet Robert Bly once said, “A young man who does not have an older man who admires him, is being cheated!” He applied the same insight and logic to the needs of women as well. He is spot on!
Encounters is a series of guided events, conversations and experiences that are intended to help you achieve personal clarity and a sense of self that, for many, continues to be elusive throughout much of their lives. Everyone needs a mentor.
Humans are hard wired for connection. When we are alone, both internally (with the little voice) or isolated in our external environments, the possibility of experiencing all that we were designed to be in life, can become remote. Healthy connections with other human beings who can support us through the trials and
uncertainty that the world throws at us are essential to the ongoing development of our character, sense of self and purpose in life.
Growth and personal development is, by design, supposed to be a life-long adventure. The nature of the relationships and environments we find ourselves in, or have placed ourselves in, correspondingly, plays an important role. It determines the state of our being, and satisfaction with life.
It can also be observed that we can get stuck in imagining that we have established healthy, stimulating connections with others. This can be a trap. Enter the Mentor, the coach and the counselor.
Please note this process is not talk therapy or life coaching. Encounters is an interaction between the two of us with one goal in mind. You discover and experience a sense of yourself that you have, thus far, not thought possible.
All of my work revolves around one core clinical observation. Whatever you may be struggling with in life it is attached in some way to our universal need for the acceptance, approval and admiration of others.
If we move through life insecurely it is a reflection of a deficit in your experience with this primary need. The insecure aspect of this presents itself as all sorts of behavioral and relational problems.
Too simple? Not at all! Our sense of self is wrapped around this internal perspective. That perspective shapes and defines the world as we, each individually, have created it. As your mentor I will help you un-wrap that package and you will re-imagine the future. That’s the goal plain and simple. Goals are important!
This is the process. It may sound simplistic, but that happens to be the process you use to establish and maintain your very complex relationships with the world and everyone in it. Our brains facilitate the process automatically, it’s almost instantaneous.
As your guide and confidant I will teach you how to reorganize what is into what it can be. Your version of “what can be” of course! This is the process all of my clients have participated in. Self-discovery can provide a lot of benefits. Take action!
1. Self-discipline
2. Self-doubt
3. Identifying assets and strengths,
4. Creating new environments
5. Educational and personal development
6. Behavior change
7. Quality of life
8. Overcoming Self-doubt
9. Solution-oriented strategies
10. Goal setting and follow through
11. Patterns and expectations
12. Relationships – self and others
13. Finding your genius (purpose and meaning)
14. Thoughts, actions, emotions and outcomes
15. Problem solving
16. Intimacy
17. Procrastination
18. Confidence
19. Add one or more of your own!
The list of topics may seem daunting, but the truth is each relates to the others. As one topic begins to resolve itself others can be strengthened too. New skills beget new outcomes over time.
You are hard wired for connection. Reach out and begin the adventure.